The Best Tip When You Need A Moment Away From Being Mommy

The Best Tip When You Need A Moment Away From Being Mommy

How Does The Mommy Overwhelm Start?

Picture it – one of those mornings where you are already waking up late, rushing to get everyone where they need to be, not even taking a minute to look yourself over in the mirror, getting everyone fed, forgetting yourself, picking away at the chores that never get done, answering to the calls of “Mommy” on repeat while attempting to keep the smile on your face believable. Then something bigger happens, maybe a skinned knee or a tired toddler begging for another episode of Paw Patrol, a missing teddy, or lost homework, and your heart just pounds. Running off to the bathroom for a quick pee leads to banging on the door from a search party noticing you have personal space, and you look in the mirror and see it. You are exhausted and that top knot from yesterday isn’t fooling anyone. You. Need. A. Minute.

Keep reading for The Best Tip When You Need A Moment Away From Being Mommy

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A Brilliant Idea For “Alone Time”

When I was a teacher in my 20’s, I had more energy then I can even imagine now. Where did that all go? I would pay a small fortune to have a bottle of that energy now. I bounced into the room with the optimism of the Blue Fairy, seeing everyone’s hopes and dreams come true all around me, watching these little beings transform over the school year. I loved it!

Every now and then I would have a special guest come into the class to share a story or teach the children something exciting, or even to put on a show. It was great. The idea was that the kids could hear a different voice for a few minutes and I could run to the bathroom or mark a few assignments. But you know what? I never wanted to miss a moment. I often stayed in the room to observe and work quietly in the corner, soaking in the joy and excitement the children felt. To be respectful of the guest to our class, and to allow for me to be efficient in my “free time” I came up with a brilliant idea. I crowned myself “Queen Invisible”. While I had my crown on the children “couldn’t see me, hear me or talk to me” unless it was an emergency of course. With the crown on, I wasn’t in the room to them. This took a few attempt to get used to but it worked brilliantly. Whenever I dawned the crown I was invisible.

What Mom Life Really Looks Like

That little vision above, with the running late and the banging on the bathroom door, that’s pretty much my reality. And I know I’m not alone there; hiding in the bathroom for a moment of peace. I think I actually hid a donut under my shirt, went to the bathroom and then ate it in silence in there earlier this week. That’s not true. I KNOW I did that. I. Needed. A. Minute.

Inspiration for Greatness from the Strangest Places

I was sitting on the side of the tub, eating this fantastic donut when I looked on the floor to find a discarded and dirty princess dress. We had been playing in the yard, making dough (click here for amazing outdoor play ideas), while dressed as princesses, because why not? We had come inside to clean hands and change clothes and the princess dress hadn’t yet found it’s way to be laundered… oh great, another thing for my to-do list today… and it hit me! I could be Queen!

Real Life Mom Hustle

Wiping the crumbs from my face, looking in the mirror at my top knot gone wild, yesterday’s mascara and who knows what day’s shirt, I thought, “This is perfect! I am Queen!” A former version of myself might have thought a few negative phrases about what I saw in my reflection, but not this girl. I’ve been working on my self talk (freebie below) and getting my priorities straight… hard to imagine when moments before I was inhaling a donut, but small steps to success still make the journey, and I was on my way to royalty!

After all signs of the donut were gone, I burst out of the bathroom (my hiding place, choosing to look beyond the irony of the whole “throne” bit) I strutted myself over to our dramatic play area and dug out a crown. I didn’t need a ceremony, this moment was perfect. Crown now on my head, I walked over to my chair and sat down.

There’s Something Different About Mommy

This was the sign to my daughter that something was up. I never sit down. In a chair. I sit on the floor crosslegged with her, I sit on the side of the tub while she sings on the potty, I sit in the grass and become a human bubble machine. I sit on the carpet and read stories on demand, sing songs, count and create all day long. But I rarely sit on a chair. Things were about to change.

“Mommy?” My first thought – she busted me. There could be chocolate crumbs on my shirt. No, it’s the crown. And the sitting. It’s all good.

“You’re playing princess?” I take off the crown and hold it on my lap.

“No honey, I am the Queen. When I wear the crown I become Queen Invisible and no one can see me.”

Silence. And staring.

“Sometimes Mommies need a minute to just be the Queen and do nothing else. When I am Queen Invisible I love you and am here and listening, watching for if you need me, but you can’t see me listing and watching because I am invisible. If there is an emergency, I can stop being the Queen, but for the next few minutes, I’m going to put this crown on my head and you won’t be able to hear me or see me, okay?”

“Okay.” I put the crown on.

“Mommy?!”

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Purposefully made with calming colors to prevent distraction and provide a focused space for learning through play with a parent or teacher,

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Progress, Not Perfection

I do this for two minutes, which feels like an hour to both of us. The next day, I did it for 5, and then yesterday I did it for 10 minutes. I didn’t really need the minutes the second and third day but I wanted to see if I could make this work as easily as I did with my class years before. It was harder now. My heart was in a different place. I loved my entire class so much but there’s something different about your own children looking up at you with those eyes…

Each day I tried this I started by sitting down with the crown and explaining what I had the first time. At one point or another I did get questions, poked and prodded, pulled on and hugged (the toughest of them all). And each time (unless there were tears nearing) I smiled and continued to sit with my crown on. After the time was up I would take it off and repeat my explanation. Today – Day 4. Magic. I went through my explanation and reminded Little Bee that I loved her even when I was invisible. That I was able to become visible again if she needed me but that during this time, and she could play on her own until I took off my crown. And it worked!

Taking Charge of Body, Time and Worth as Mommy

I will do this again for the next few days, and then lengthen out the time between doing it longer and longer until I’m only doing it when I need or want to, no matter how frequent or infrequent this may be. For now, I am using this as my time to drink my coffee, warm as it was designed to be enjoyed, in my chair with my entire body to myself. Shocker of a revelation: coffee is so much better when it’s hot and fresh. Warming it up in the microwave four times each day does not make it better. I’m worth a hot cup of coffee.

Taking on Mom Guilt

 

Being a mom is a tough gig. Some days more than others. But it’s okay to take a few minutes of alone time to refocus and just be you again. Explaining this to our little ones, why it is important to you, also sends them the message as to why their own space is important to them (I talk about consent in this post). Having these moments helps me mother better and allows me to watch my child play without being distracted by something else. Making a habit of doing this now and then reminds both my daughter and myself that we are worth the time to stop and just be “invisible” when we choose to, while being fully there. More importantly, we can choose to be Queen, to take control of the situation and to express needs without shame or guilt.

 

Learning Through Play As Mommy – Why “Me Time” Is Important

 

I don’t need to pretend to play this game with Little Bee. I made a decision to be a mother and to do it as well as I can everyday. Some days I do this with pride and would shout from the rooftops of all the amazing things we did. Other days I feel I just couldn’t be the mother I dreamed I would be, serving chicken fingers and goldfish crackers and raisins from a tiny box to make it through. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t a great mom that day – she was fed, loved and avoided most injuries. That’s what Band-Aids are for, right?! Being a mom is a lot of routine, but it’s also a lot of challenge in keeping up with the constant changes our amazing children throw at us. What is important is that I do my best in that day. We read, we sing, we dance, and usually she takes the lead in the game. But I can design the play too. Play doesn’t have to stop because we have “grown up” and we are Moms. It’s just as important now as ever; learning through play never stops.

 

Lessons for Both of Us

 

When I play Invisible Queen, both Little Bee and I are learning so much and sitting in my chair, drinking my hot coffee, crown on my head, watching my daughter play quietly, isn’t a bad way to start the day – it’s way better than on the side of the tub with the donut. It’s a great message for the both of us. I’m worth the time, and so is she. I’m the Queen and she is my Princess. We both deserve the best we can both give to each day, within each day. Sometimes that means just making it through and other days it means magical moments. No matter what day we are having, we both deserve to be appreciated, noticed, and given what we need. We both deserve to play.

 

What do you do when you need to step away from being “Mom” for a moment – I’d love to hear how you take your “Me Time” when you can’t quite get away?

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Being a Mommy is tough sometimes and the self talk we express to ourselves each day is so important! I created this printable for you to print out and post somewhere that you will see it and say it to yourself daily!

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Amazing Messy Play Ideas and the Benefits of Sensory Play

Amazing Messy Play Ideas and the Benefits of Sensory Play

I recently wrote about the benefits of outdoor play and an added benefit I didn’t mention but is a huge one in our home is that the mess stays outside! We love messy play and I know that you are going to love it too when we look beyond the “mess” aspect and into the benefits and learning outcomes of creating these opportunities for our little ones. In this post you will find:

  • 63 amazing ideas for messy play

  • The benefits of messy play and sensory play

  • Our favourite messy play activity

  • Two awesome freebie printables for you to download!

  • A homemade finger paint recipe

*This post contains affiliate links which if used cost you nothing extra, but a small percentage comes back to me to support more learning! You’re welcome to check out my privacy policy or reach out to me directly with questions anytime!*

But first let’s start with what messy play is all about!

I am a tidy person for the most part and I love organization, but having a child with the wind as her guide and a business that I’m so passionate about, leaves little time to clean and organize the way I once would have. Plus, who wants to be scrubbing dishes when the rest of the family is running around in the yard? In welcoming all types of play, I want my daughter to investigate the world in whatever way she likes, chase her passions and part of that means letting her make a mess. Taking all of this outside let’s us both walk away with a win (read more about the benefits of outdoor play here). She’s getting the benefit of playing in the fresh air, getting to play with messy and wonderful methods of play, and I can use the hose to clean it all up at the end!

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What are Sensory and Messy Play and Why Do These Activities with My Child?

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What is Messy Play?

Messy play is play with no set outcome, using materials that can be manipulated and changed that evoke the use of children’s senses while working their hand-eye coordination, fine and gross motor skills, life skills such as pouring, mixing and measuring, and essentially ends up with a happy child and a great big mess (although not always)! There are so many types of messy play and materials you can use. I’ll list a few further on in this post.

It can be intimidating to take on messy play in our homes when our days are already filled with so many tasks, taking on a great big mess in the middle of our living rooms can be daunting. But there are so many benefits of having our children dive into this type of play.

What is Sensory Play?

Sensory play is often a goal in providing messy play that is well known in the early childhood education world. It provide experiences and opportunities that make a meaningful contribution to a child’s cognitive and creative development as well as so much more. We all use our senses in more ways than we can understand, to make our way through our day to day but more so in young children who are making sense of their work, through touching everything in sight, putting everything in their mouths, smelling things we can’t imagine smelling, watching and searching out information in all they see around them, listening to every word (yes, they can hear everything and often repeat it!) they hear, and moving in such a way that they involve themselves with their surroundings; climbing, crawling, jumping, rolling, sliding, dancing, twirling. This is all sensory learning through play.

In creating opportunities for children to apply what they are naturally drawn to do, we are allowing them to develop parts of their brain that sitting back and “watching” or “listening” as you would imagine in traditional educational environments simply can’t provide. We are giving them the opportunity to learn more about their world while using their 7 senses.

What are our 7 senses?

We are so familiar with our five senses: sight, smell, taste, hearing, and touch

But it turns out there are actual 7 senses in play, the two additional are: Vestibular and Proprioception

Sight – the ability of the eyes to focus and detect images of light and translate the message to the brain about colors, hues, and brightness.

Smell – the ability to detect odour molecules which send messages to our brain based on how mild or strong the information is.

Taste – the ability to gather information from food and some minerals through our taste buds and send the message of sweet, bitter, salty, sour and savoury to our brain.

Hearing – the ability to translate sound from changes in the air, or vibration and pass that information to the brain to recognize and interpret.

Touch – the ability to take variations in pressure, usually on the skin using hair follicles and tell the brain of the message and where on the body this sensation is felt.

Vestibular – has to do with balance and telling our brain when our body is in motion and when it needs support from other senses to stay stable (example: walking on an uneven or slippery surface)

Proprioception – is about the overall placement of our bodies, where our arms and legs are and what they are up to, and if they are able to do what the brain is asking of them next. (example; jumping from a rock and landing on our feet knowing our feet will be there to land on or clapping our hands with our eyes closed).

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The Benefits of Messy Play and Sensory Play to Child Development

  1. complete more complex tasks through practice of life skills
  2. enhances cognitive development
  3. enhances language development
  4. stimulating the senses
  5. gross motor development
  6. fine motor development
  7. practice using tools (shovels, paint brushes, tweezers, spoons, cups, etc.)
  8. supports independence
  9. enhances memory
  10. conflict resolution
  11. problem solving skills
  12. decision making
  13. concentration
  14. patience
  15. STEAM learning
  16. unique experience each time
  17. freedom to learn with no set outcome
  18. planning ahead
  19. responsibility and care for materials
  20. can be done anywhere, anytime with any materials (list provided below)
  21. relaxing and soothing
  22. meaningful interactions with friends and family
  23. boost confidence in mastering skills such as pouring or measuring
  24. learning shapes, sizes, patterns size, shape, height, weight, counting, grouping, buoyancy and volume
  25. learning about cause and effect
  26. learning about literacy
  27. hand-eye coordination
  28. it’s fun!
  29. develop imagination, curiosity, and creativity
  30. investigation and testing theories
  31. incredible tactile experience
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A beautiful resource for homeschooling, and enriching learning through play at home with toddlers and preschoolers, which will take them into adulthood. Builds upon core concepts that are increasingly challenging so as your little ones grow and knowledge expands, you have the resources to support them all in one place.

Purposefully made with calming colors to prevent distraction and provide a focused space for learning through play with a parent or teacher,

The Love of Learning Binder can be used in a homeschool setting, preschool, or as a daily part of a momma life with little ones at home and makes a wonderful quiet time activity so you can get to business on your own goals.

Here for you, Momma!

63 Amazing Outdoor Messy Play Ideas for Your Children to Enjoy

Bug Hunt and Collection for Investigation
Build a bird feeder or bird house
Building and Decorating Cardboard Boxes
Camping Fun (super cute ideas here)
Chalk Painting
Collage Creating
Colored Rice
Cooked Noodles Play
Cooking Adventures – let them cook up a family favourite or be adventurous like this kimchi recipe or this homemade butter!
Digging for Dinosaur Bones (This is a cute activity about finding dinosaurs in the ice!)
Dry Pasta Play
Finger Paint
Flour Fights
Garden Play
Giant Canvas Painting
Glitter Activities
Grass and Mud Soup
Ice and Snow Painting
Jello Bins
Jelly Balls
Large Scale Construction
Learning About Food Coloring (Dying Carnations Experiment)
Learning How to Use Liquid Glue
Make Giant Bubbles
Making “Dough” – Letting the Child Take the Lead.
Making Music with Homemade Instruments (and learn how children around the world make music!)
Marble Painting
Modelling Clay
Move Indoor Toys Outside
Move Pillows and Blankets Outside
Mud Kitchen (and learn about different feasts around the world for inspiration of what to create in your mud kitchen!)
Nature Inspired Painting (clouds, flowers, trees)
Oat or Dry Cereal Play
Outdoor Bath
Paint Balloons
Painting with Feet
Pasta Jewelry
Picnic
Play Dough
Play in the Leaves (fall)
Playing is Messy Weather (rain and snow)
Playing with Beans
Potato Flakes
Put on a Play (with beautiful set creation)
Rock Collecting
Rock Painting
Sensory Bins
Shaving Cream
Shower in the Rain
Slime
Soapy Water (or better yet, make this elephant toothpaste! So fun!!)
Sports Play (while learning about the sports children around the world play!)
Sprinkler Fun
Stamp Painting with Nature Items
Stamp Painting with Potatoes
Take Messy Meals Outside to Let Your Child Enjoy with the Freedom of Allowing the Mess to Happen.
Tea Party
Turkey Baster Painting
Washing Station
Water Balloons
Water Painting
Water Play
Working with Tools (with adult support)

Invite the Scientist

Exploration Through Painting – Our Favourite Outdoor Messy Play and Sensory Learning

We love painting outside. Little Bee loves to make a giant mess on craft paper wrapped around our big oak tree, painting rocks, or logs, making prints with leaves and grass, but most of all she loves to mix and pour the paint, learn about it through hands on play. 

STEAM learning allows our little ones to create their own colours, mixtures, art pieces through investigation and testing their own theories. What started out as everything ending up brown, my daughter has been learning to mix colours in such a way that she can now create the combinations she wants from primary colours, and add texture when she decides to do so. She is learning hand-eye coordination, fine and gross motor skills, life skills such as pouring, mixing and measuring, to name just a few. The most important and meaningful benefit to today – she’s having a wonderful time!

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The Amazing Benefits of Painting with Your Child

  1. Allowing an artist to form and discover their creativity.
  2. Allows children to express their feelings by discussing their creation.
  3. Learning the science of the materials they are using. How each works, the effect and impact of each type of tool or canvas, different types of paint. Chemistry, and physics all wound into one simple activity.
  4. Never the same activity twice. Even in the most simple form, with paper and paint using fingers to create, the picture will be something unique each time.
  5. Given the freedom to create, children are able to take control of the activity and make it whatever they wish. It’s entirely up to them and they can allow the experience to guide and direct them.
  6. There are so many ways to use painting to build sensory experience and move those muscles, both fine motor in holding the painting tools, to large motor in moving one’s body to create the picture.
  7. Decision making – colours, materials, design and critical thinking
  8. Supports Independence
  9. Cleaning and Care for Materials
  10. The materials you can use are endless (list shared below)
  11. Relaxing and Soothing
  12. Meaningful Interactions with Friends and Family
  13. Accomplish a Goal – Ending the Activity with a Final Product
  14. Enhanced Concentration
  15. Appreciating the Arts
  16. Create Gifts for Others – Spreading the Joy
  17. Boost Confidence in Mastering a Skill
  18. Learning Shapes, Sizes and Patters – Introductory Numeracy!
  19. Learning About Colour Mixing
  20. Hand-Eye Coordination
  21. It’s Fun!
  22. Engaging the Senses
  23. Develop Imagination, Curiosity, and Creativity
  24. Investigation and Testing Theories
  25. Learn About Beauty, in Nature (inspiration) in the Tools and Supplies (such as our beautiful things bin) and in Creation (what is made in the process and final product)
  26. Cognitive Development (both sides of the brain are used in creative and emotional application as well as logic and step by step process application)
  27. Language Development – using descriptive language to explain what you are doing and asking the same of the child, explain what they have created, what materials, what colours, how many colours, shapes, sizes, widths, designs, what have they used as inspiration, why did they choose it – get them talking, describing and building their vocabulary.
  28. Enhanced Practical Skills: pouring, wiping, cleaning, counting, organizing, to name a few

Bonus Benefit to Painting with Your Little One

It can be inexpensive! You can create you own paint or use inexpensive paint you purchase –  you can create you own brushes using nature’s supplies or use non at all (finger painting), use can use paper, or natures canvases all around (rocks and leaves). This is an activity that is accessible to anyone, anytime, anywhere!

HOMEMADE FINGER PAINT RECIPE:

(requires stove)

•2 cups flour

•2 tsp salt

•2 1/2 cups cold water

•2 cups hot water

food colouring

Have your little one mix the dry ingredients while you add the cold water. Mix until smooth (or if you are using a mixer, you can take over to move this process along). Add the hot water and place on the stove to boil stir until it becomes clear and smooth. Add your food colouring to the mixture or split into many bowls to create multiple colours.

The Best Painting Supplies for Your Child

If you aren’t feeling quite ready for messy painting –

we love this mess free paint for when we are somewhere we don’t want to make a big mess,

such as Little Bee’s Grandparent’s house

– thanks so much Amanda, Avery and Max for introducing this to us!

Download Your Freebie Here!

This amazing type of play sets the foundation for those basic concepts that from afar may look like “mess making” but when you get a better understanding you come to find that in fact they are building important core skills that will take them into adulthood, they are investigating and practicing and becoming who they have the potential to be. Cleaning up a bit of rice after knowing this, is so small when you are setting the stage for someone amazing to become someone amazing. 

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Create Your Stay at Home Business While Spending Time With Your Kids

Create Your Stay at Home Business While Spending Time With Your Kids

Running a business from home can be difficult with little ones running around your feet, pulling on your pant leg and needing your attention but it can be done! When I jumped into this blogging journey I was welcomed with open arms to the amazing momma bloggers who are getting it done like pros all around us! If you’re interested in taking financial control and rocking a home business while snuggling your little ones, then I have a few great resources to share with you that made this life possible for me!

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My main business is educational consulting and blogging about educational activities and resources. I created a few products of my own, but I really prefer to share freebies with my audience to make sure everyone gets a chance to support their little learners. To do this, I have to have an income and sharing great information with my readers and the products that allow me to do that is an awesome way to see additional income streams in my bank account.
Create Your Stay at Home Business While Spending Time With Your Kids

Create Your Stay at Home Business While Spending Time With Your Kids

Create Your Stay at Home Business While Spending Time With Your Kids
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Introducing Awesome Resources into Your Business to Make Work Life More Efficient

I do a lot of printing – that’s a huge understatement because I love to print out learning activities for my little one, her Love of Learning Binder, and workbooks from online courses I take to constantly enrich my practice. It seems a bit funny for someone who works so heavily in the online world that I still prefer to jot notes with pen and paper but I also know hands on learning is key for my daughter so there we have it. It was costing me a small fortune until I discovered HP Instant Ink. If you have an HP Printer and do a lot of printing like I do, HP Instant Ink acts like your own personal ink assistant. When you need ink, your printer automatically lets HP know to send more. HP Original Ink is delivered straight to your door before you run out – and only when you need it (no stockpiling!). Plus, trying it is risk free – you can cancel anytime. It’s pretty awesome and a huge savings for a house that prints as much as Little Bee and I do! You can share your referral link with your friends with signing up so you can print for free which is a huge bonus as well!

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Amazing Resources to Easily and Quickly

Build a Site for Online Business

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I had decided to jump into blogging – to best share my resources and information with the audience I knew wanted it and would benefit from it. I wanted as little hassle as possible because I’m not naturally a tech savvy person. I was intimidated initially about the idea of starting a website but found out about SiteGround – an amazing web hosting site that provides incredible support. I was able to quickly set up my site with WordPress, and SiteGround was able to walk me through the process and provide me with all the information I needed. They are incredibly quick to respond to any time and do free site transfers for those looking to upgrade to a better supported hosting team. My site is never down, and the price is super reasonable!

To take my site to the next level, I invested in Divi – a beautiful theme from Elegant Themes. I love it so much. I can customize every inch, every aspect of my site and make it entirely me (with constant support from the team at Elegant Themes). They have lots of beautiful themes, but Divi is the most popular for Momma bloggers and online business owners because you can build your site from the front site rather than working with the coded and more intimidating back end. It’s amazing. You save so much time by saving templates that populate in a matter of seconds and you can pop your content in with no fuss. Amazing!

In committing to the “look” that I wanted for my site, I searched high and low for beautiful stock images that were meaningful to my message. There are amazing stock sites out there where you can sign up for lovely images for free and Ivory Mix is one of those – but I’ve also purchased a membership with Kayla of Ivory Mix because her images are so beautiful and clean looking and were exactly what I wanted. I do take my own photos as well but when you are a mom, running an online business, time is critical and formatting photos is out of my reach most days. Ivory Mix has exactly what I need in feminine photos, that don’t need any fine tuning. They are ready to go and add so much to each one of my posts.

Sharing affiliate links is a huge aspect to making a living from blogging. So much of what I do naturally encourages me to share the products I love and to earn a small portion from directing readers to these sites, I registered myself as an affiliate member with ShareASale. ShareASale allows me to search for companies I love and provides me with a link that I can use to share their products with friends and readers. I am very cautious with how I do this. I don’t like a lot of ads on my site. It’s not true to my message, or who I am and I honestly just don’t like the look. That’s not to say that people don’t make a fortune doing that, but it just wasn’t what I wanted for my site so I decided long ago to only promote products I used and loved. Honesty with your readers and clients goes a long way and it shines through pretty clearly.

Marketing and Promotion – Getting Your Incredible Products and Content to the People Who Want & Need It

I mentioned Ivory Mix above and I think that it is worth mentioning again here as visuals and images are so key to how we market our message, share out service and let people into what we have to offer. A mix of my own photos and those I get from Ivory Mix make up the majority of my posts, Facebook banners, Pinterest pins (will detail this more below), and Instagram photos. Having this consistent imaging allows people to recognize me and my work from afar. It’s critical to my success.

To create these images, with the text I want and adding my logo, I use PicMonkey – an amazingly easy to use design tool with more features than I have even attempted to look at. PicMonkey helps you build collages, made to measure templates for all social media platforms, gives you amazing and beautiful templates for poster, business cards and banners. It’s really cool and better yet – makes this creative process really fast and efficient. 

I was already an avid user and lover of Pinterest. It is a great place to search for just about everything, using visuals to send you a message in a matter of seconds if that content is for you. It’s like an upgrade to search engines for already busy moms who need information fast – and what better way then with images speaking directly to our search.

Sharing YOUR message is just as easy when you have a Pinterest Business Account (which is free to set up – super fast and simple too!), but it can feel overwhelming to keep up with all the pinning and sharing that helps your products, services and content get to the people who want and need it. Enter, Tailwind. Oh Tailwind, how I love you. Tailwind makes using Pinterest a breeze (and they have an added aspect for Instagram too but I don’t use that one just yet) and they are constantly sharing information on how to make the most of the platform for your business. It’s seriously amazing.

When it comes to connecting to your readers, reaching out via email and inviting them to follow your content with regular updates, ConvertKit is well known and well loved and really is built with bloggers and home businesses in mind with simple and quick templates and form creation.

I love and use MailerLite which offers all of the above as well. Just like ConvertKit, it can be integrated into your site, allows you to make sign up forms and email sequences with drag and drop simplicity. The big difference is the price – MailerLite is free for 1000 or fewer subscribers and is only $10/month for up to 2500 subscribers. I really feel it offers just as amazing opportunities and customizations as ConvertKit. Both are really great options – I’ve tried both and it was a hard decision as they were both so easy to use. Ultimately it came down to price, which is why I chose MailerLite.

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Start your day off on the right foot with the right mindset to see you through those challenges! Free downloadable mantra list here!

Selling Your Own Products – Making Sales Quick and Efficient for Your Customers

I mentioned before that I liked to keep things simple. Time is a huge factor for me and I know I’m not alone in that. When I wanted to set up sales on my site, I knew I wanted it to be as few clicks as possible for those purchasing my products. I wanted something quick to set up and inexpensive for me since I wasn’t planning on constantly marketing my product as my focus was supportive and informational. Free to try and then just $9 for a basic plan, SendOwl does just that. I’m so pleased with it. It took minutes to set up and my first sale went through perfectly, sending my product to my client without any fuss from my end. Easy breezy.

Balancing Mom Life and Business Life

This is a tricky one, but not at all impossible when it comes to creating a routine that works for everyone and allows you to be efficient, effective and produce meaningful and valuable content in the moments and chunks of time you have throughout the day. I recently wrote a post about the importance of routine for everyone in the home and especially for you while building your business. The infographic shown here helps you prepare your day with your little ones in mind. I’ll go into more detail for what to do with those chunks of time you have to work your business soon but here is where to begin:

  • Get in the right headspace and mindset – start your day with this Mommy Mantra (free printable here) and remind yourself of your goals, and your “WHY” – more on this in another point.
  • Start your day with 3 main goals and write them on your to-do list. There is so much research behind actually writing these goals down vs having them in electronic format and I really do feel it helps to have your hands on your list each day.
  • Having an idea of how long these take and how much time you have in each chunk of time will help you plan and prioritize when you can accomplish them!
  • Earlier is best as things tend to take longer than we anticipate, and getting things done earlier means more time for more success building and loving on our little ones.
  • Do the biggest, most time consuming tasks first. I know, right?! I tend to leave these until the end to but they are often the items that get pushed to the next day, and then the next and so on.
  • Know your most productive time periods. For me, I can get a lot of focused work done early in the day – but my daughter is an early riser to this time gets interrupted often. I work really well in the evening after she goes to bed but this is also the most frequently request part of my day by others in my life who deserve time and attention too – friends, family, self! So, each day I set aside a solid hour where my daughter knows this is her “quiet time” and Mommy’s work time. She understands the importance of the time I need and that during that time work is my priority although I love her during all the hours of the day. My time is valuable. Yours is too. Choose how to spend it, while understanding the needs of your family but not putting your needs on the back burner.
  • It’s okay for my daughter to see me working! In the beginning I didn’t want my daughter to see me on my computer, phone, or have to sit quietly while I took calls because I felt I was putting her second. Well, I’ve come to understand this is exactly the opposite. She is my “WHY” behind so much of what I do and to work from home and be with her, this is what needs to be done. She is learning so much for these moments: time management, productivity, multitasking, focus, priorities, results orientation, and I am becoming a role model of what a mom who runs her own business, with financial freedom and time freedom looks like. She knows I do not choose time away from her lightly. I am not “wasting time” while I am within technology and I am not doing tasks that require me to be lost in a world away from her. I don’t do this for much of the day as she and I spend chunks of time with her Love of Learning Binder, playing outside, or at structured activities but when I do have to check in on some business, she knows and understands the importance of why – I don’t hide my awesome from her!

I would love to hear what resources you have tried and love, or where you are on your journey to working at home so you can enjoy your time with your little ones. It’s not easy and it takes a lot of planning and a lot of consistency but it’s so very possible to snuggle your children while making an income – supporting one another is the first step and I’m happily here to support you anytime! Just reach out!

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Is Your Child Heading to Kindergarten soon?!

Looking over at that amazing child of yours, thinking of slipping the straps of a backpack far too big for their still tiny shoulders as you send them off to kindergarten for the first time, armed with the perfectly packed lunch and all the love in your heart; what a milestone!

Well, Mama. I can help you prepare for this amazing adventure.

In a FREE email course, I walk you through

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The Benefits of Outdoor Play for Children

The Benefits of Outdoor Play for Children

The Amazing Benefits and Importance of Outdoor Play

for Children of All Ages

Most children love to play outside if given the opportunity, which in itself is a beautiful benefit; the joy and laughter they experience and the smile beaming across their face.

Knowing the enjoyment from the exploration is only the beginning as below I go into detail about:

12 Benefits of Outdoor Play for Children

From developing strength and coordination, building independence and confidence, children learn of the incredible opportunities that playing outside provides and share it with us every time they lace up their shoes to go outside. They already know, and now it’s our turn to learn.

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May 17th was the most recent Outdoor Classroom Day – a movement by educators looking to enrich the learning experience of children and love of the outdoors. While running Profound Play and Learning, we always took part in Outdoor Classroom Day (of which there are two a year – winter and spring) when the weather allowed, spending our entire day outside.

With yesterday being Outdoor Classroom Day, Little Bee and I still wanted to make it a special part of our day so we packed up a bag and took our play outside. We always incorporate outdoor play in our day but for a special day like this, we try to spend the entire day outside to really bring home the idea of the benefits of outdoor play.

What is Outdoor Play?

For Little Bee, outdoor play is fun and freedom, a wide open space with room to spin with arms spread, welcoming the sun, rain, snow and wind. Building confidence, coordination, strength and understanding, Little Bee is learning to appreciate the outside world through physical and mental play and development.

12 Benefits of Playing Outside for Children

 

  1. Physical Health – I think this one would be a clear benefit for anyone who has ever watched a child play outside. They are non-stop movement, with room to spread their wings and the urgency to run, dance, move and spin. All of this activity works to build their strength in muscles and bones, gets their heart pumping and blood moving, gives them the ever important fresh air to fill their lungs and Vitamin D for their growing bodies. Practicing those skills in fine and gross motor development, balance, flexibility, and coordination while encouraging exercise and enjoyment of the outdoors.
  2. Mental Health and Wellbeing – Children who are able to shake out their sillies and be the natural investigators they are in the outdoors tend to be happier and more resilient people. Burning off the energy that is wound up inside these little people all day allows them to concentrate, and be more relaxed (which supports classroom success and behaviour) in addition to those feelings of happiness.
  3. Improves Sleep – A third of school-aged children in Canada are sleep deprived, according to a 2016 ParticipAction report card, which states that a sedentary lifestyle and too much screen time are to blame. According to another 2016 study, published in Acta Paediatrica, longer screen time is greatly associated with shorter nocturnal sleep duration among two- to five-year-olds. It found late bedtimes and poor quality of sleep lead to hyperactivity, depression and obesity, as well as stunted physical growth and lower IQ scores. But there’s a simple fix: That same study found that kids who had more outdoor playtime were less likely to wake at night. Exposure to sunlight helps regulate sleep patterns, and physical activity helps children fall asleep faster and get better quality sleep. Dietze saw this first-hand at a daycare centre in Trenton, Ont. When outdoor time (including naps) was increased from two to six hours a day, it resulted in the one thing parents of daycare-age children want most: The kids slept through the night. (Quoted from Today’s Parent)

  4. Independence – Often when playing inside, children feel they need someone to play with them which can be tricky for moms who are also trying to accomplish a few things on their to-do list. Opening up to the space of the outdoors often encourages little ones to push beyond the normal distance of adult involvement and become engaged in an activity all on their own. Pouring water, digging in the mud, poking sticks in freshly dug holes, gathering flowers, all becomes quiet, focused activity. Even while playing with others in a running game, hide and seek or group activity, children are often just far enough away from an adult (while still being safely observed) that they are led to deal with small conflicts on their own, work as a team with those they play, and take turns all on their own. The biggest of this that I’ve watched and felt so much pride are those moments when children pick themselves up after a tumble, dust themselves off and carry on in play.
  5. Confidence and Self Awareness– Playing outdoors allows children to build on skills they are newly learning and challenge themselves when they feel ready. Relying on balance and coordination, children can actively build confidence in their bodies and minds. They can feel proud of themselves and their ability to accomplish something they felt was beyond their reach just days before.
  6. Education – As a strong believer in learning through play, being out in the fresh air and sunshine (or even clouds and rain or snow) children are keen to investigate and navigate their surroundings and use new tools in their play such as rocks, sticks, mud, grass and snow. This also helps to promote the idea to children that play is valuable, that it can be done anywhere, and doesn’t require traditional toys.
  7. Endless Play Opportunities – Parks well known or new to you, yard, field, gravel, dirt, gardens, school grounds, downtown (safely with adults nearby), a friend’s house, church grounds or community spaces, hiking trails, farms (with invitation), ponds and lakes, all offer incredible adventures and learning opportunities.
  8. STEAM Learning – Born scientists and explorers, the outdoors provides wonderful opportunities to intrigue growing minds and passions. No matter how big or small the discovery, I ask questions of Little Bee’s findings to encourage her to learn more about the world around her and to test out theories about what she already knows. Read more about STEAM learning here.
  9. Push beyond comfort – Encouraging children to push through hesitation in learning new skills, climbing a rock wall, jumping off a log, or flying down a swirly slide that is their own Mount Everest. Safe risk taking is a topic among many educators; providing those opportunities where children can gain understanding of risky play (falling from various heights, slippery conditions, rough and tumble play with friends) and learn of their capabilities with a trusted adult nearby.
  10. Creativity and Imagination – I’ve mentioned a wonderful book before Not A Stick, which is such a sweet, simple way to explores how wide the world becomes with the most basic of play things. Using nature’s toys, children are encouraged to create their own stories, and provide their own entertainment, unstructured and apart from traditional indoor toys.
  11. Social Development – Watching others play, being invited into a game, watching strangers act out their day, talking to neighbours and friends, all encourage children to apply those growing social skills that indoor play often distracts us from. Importantly here as noted above, children also learn how to work and function on their own, a very important skill through language development in expressing themselves to others, the power of their voice, and the ability to be mindful within themselves. 
  12. Love of Nature – Taking in the fresh air, sunshine, amazing puddles to splash in, grass to pull and investigate, mud to create with, rocks to build with, logs to climb on, snow to dig through, the outdoors are filled with amazing and magical play things, learning equipment and tools for exploration. Even while sitting on a small hill, in the span of a few moments, we could see and hear birds, watch ants at work, see a worm disappear into the dirt and hear a nearby dog call out a request for attention. During a walk, we enjoy the water (and of course throwing rocks in to watch the ripples), hear the hooves of horses, and take in all that we don’t see in our own back yard. Each trip offers something new, even if going to the same places on different days (check out this link for a free downloadable scavenger hunt!). The outdoor classroom is the very best one and allows us to connect with nature with a science lessons around every corner, under every leaf and within every shadow.

When children are pushed in a swing, or when they propel a swing themselves, they engage all of their muscles to hold on, balance and coordinate their body to the rhythm of moving back and forth. Swinging provides children with first-hand knowledge and experience of cause and effect and of understanding spatial learning, such as up and down and back and forth. Also, while swinging, children get a chance to see the world from a new perspective. ~ Fisher Price

Playing outside each day has become a part of our regular routine and is a welcomed part of each day. Some days this process takes longer with layers of winter wear, and others after a slather of sunscreen (this is our favourite) we are ready to run out barefoot. No matter the weather, we are ready and willing to be a part of the outdoors although I will gladly admit that those summer days splashing in water are by far my favourite.

Using special days to draw attention to how lucky we are to have an Outdoor Classroom all around us, such as a picnic or hike, or Outdoor Classroom Day, makes play outdoors meaningful and promotes meaningful conversation with Little Bee and I; moments and memories being built each time.

Although I try and take photos when I can, I often get lost in the play myself or am covered in paint or mud so don’t take out the camera or phone. I should try and make a better effort to capture these moments.

What do you like to do outside with your little ones? Do you venture out on even those not-so-nice days or do you prefer sunny weather? I would love to hear

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How to Declutter Toys That Have Taken Over Your Home

How to Declutter Toys That Have Taken Over Your Home

How Our Decluttering Adventure Started

We have a very small house that was formerly a daycare that I loved with all my heart. It was a beautiful space for a home-like learning environment that I filled with meaningful toys which allowed for learning through play. When we decided to move on from our daycare, I found that transitioning the space back to a family home style meant that I was tripping over these toys piled miles high. I really didn’t know where to start as I had taken such care in choosing each item, watched them lovingly played with and investigated by the littlest loves that I had in my care. I was attached to them and the memories they held for me in watching these tiny beings grow.

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I’m so grateful for all we have. We’ve been so fortune and it’s been so wonderful. I loved being able to spend the extra time with my daughter and loved watching other littles learn in my home as well. But now, surrounded by the toys of those moments, I felt overwhelmed by the mess and the clutter and was ready to be free of it. I know my daughter felt the same way as our first goal each day was to get outside and away from the clutter. It was hard for her to play when she barely had the floor space to stretch out when all the toys come out of the bins and onto the carpet. When it was time to tidy, it become emotional and overwhelming to think about where to start and I don’t blame her. To find her favorite toys, she had to power through piles of “stuff” and the play and learning got distracted, the moment lost of having to look for what was on her mind a moment before.

I had to consider what I wanted for the space now and I had to think about what my priorities were. It had to become a space for our family to connect and communicate without being lost in a sea of chirps and peeps from the toys that made noise.

Where to Start Clearing Out Extra Toys

I really felt that I had done a pretty good job in keeping toys at bay for the daycare. We accepted toys being passed along to us and I continued to buy toys with the best intentions of thinking of the children, rather than the space to keep them. My garage was filled with bins upon bins of toys to be swapped out. My cupboards, once designed for dishes, were overflowing with puzzles and puppets. I had great storage ideas in place but I had a hard time convincing myself that I had enough for these growing learners, so the closets continued to overflow.

I had decided when my daughter turned two, that I was going to have a small family only party for her to minimize on gifts and focus on family time and experience – a lesson learned from my sister who so much values the memories made rather than a gift to unwrap. But it can’t be helped that we feel obligated to give, give, give, to these little people who we love with our whole hearts. When I walk into a store with my daughter I can’t help but want a cute little something for her to shower her with my love… but why is that?

Why do we feel obligated to give gifts?

I know for myself I LOVE to give gifts. I love the feeling of seeing that look on someone’s face when you’ve surprised them with something they truly enjoy. It’s a high I continue to chase in sharing myself with others, especially when I can’t give my time or be there for someone in person – gifts provide that reach of a hug to someone a you don’t see as often as you would like. But it becomes hard to keep up with the standard created of giving a gift at every holiday or celebrated moment. Gift giving holidays can be stressful in making sure everyone has something “equal” in value, while still allowing them to feel special and appreciated in our lives. It gets out of hand quickly. When pregnant with my daughter I told myself that I wouldn’t be over gifting for her, that I wanted to her really enjoy the things she had and not be surrounded by endless amounts of toys, but here I was walking through the store trying to “apologize” for her having to sit in the shopping cart with a toy to love on for the time being.

I’ve reset my mindset on gifting. I still love it, but now I think of it as sharing and passing along those items we are ready to see loved by someone new.

My daughter doesn’t even blink when I say we are packing things up to pass on to someone else. She already has the ability to let go of those toys that she considers “secondary”. She has her special toys, which aren’t for sharing in her mind, but anything else is easily passed along.

Simple living has been on top of every Pinterest feed I open and with good reason. It’s a movement to help people get back to simple living, to feel a freedom in opportunity and creativity, and to get our time back rather then spending it organizing, cleaning, searching for the things we buy.

I fully appreciate this as I pick up what seems like 8 million pieces of Lego from my backyard. Squished into the mud, many now will just be a part of the backyard forever (maybe a treasure finding adventure for another day) I didn’t feel like the toys were being enjoyed and appreciated among all the others around them. We were transitioning our home from the daycare but hadn’t let go of the amount of toys now being used for only one child.

When I realized that it needed to change:

We recently spent 2 months at my parent’s home hours away from where we live. When I was packing for the trip I knew I didn’t have much space and so I had to think about what toys would be meaningful – for learning through play, while allowing for independence and imagination to flourish. What I came to learn was that she really didn’t need all that much and she was more than happy with the few things we had brought with us. We spent our time outdoors, in the kitchen, reading, and using what we had brought as loose parts in many types of play.

Spring Cleaning Toys

This is the perfect time of year to make a change in our toys – it’s that time of year where I already feel obligated to be cleaning and organizing our home; that spring cleaning vibe. We are spending so much time outside that there isn’t as much heartache about seeing the toys going out the door to their new home.

We’ve been lucky that we have friends with little ones that we can pass things onto. Toys that Little Bee has outgrown are welcomed in homes of friends who have little ones learning new skills. So we’ve started to go through toys that Little Bee has moved beyond in her own development. We are slowly going through and thinking about whom we know that might benefit from them. Having Little Bee be a part of this empowers her and allows her to feel that wonderful feeling of sharing with someone she loves.

 

Toys are Learning Tools – Choosing Them with Care

Children are natural investigators (check out my guest post here on the topic) and providing them the tools – toys – for learning through play allows them to make the most of the opportunity.

I mentioned before that I spent a lot of time and energy choosing toys for the daycare that allowed for learning through play, contributed to imagination, loose parts play, and a love of learning. I was careful to keep branded items at a minimum and include toys that could cross play cultures and become “anything”. With a background in Educational Psychology, I applied a lot of my approach for creating environments for learning from educational theories such as Montessori, Reggio Emilia, and Walforf Schools. But it isn’t easy to stick to this when we are surrounded by media marketed messages that we need the newest toys and that kids feel that they have to have the greatest gadgets. We don’t have a television in my home but we do have an iPad, and for us Paw Patrol and Minnie Mouse can be spotted a mile away at any store, or any park on a t-shirt or backpack of a playmate. It’s brilliant marketing and sales; beautifully done, and incredibly impactful. I do what I can to minimize the messaging for my daughter, but I know especially when she gets to school that will be more challenging to deal with. What I can do is enrich the values now. I can remind her that she is not the sum of all her belongings and reinforce those lessons in learning through play (more on that here)

11 Rules for an Organized Playroom

  1. Less is More: And the lifelong lessons that come from that – sharing and taking care of toys, organizing and being responsible, developing imagination, more time for quality play when less time is spent searching for and cleaning up toys.
  2. Choose Valuable and Meaningful Toys: Purchase and accept toys into your home that can grow with your children, provide meaningful learning through play and are truly enjoyed.
  3. Revisit the Spring Cleaning of Toys: This isn’t a one-time process and could be reevaluated after holidays, birthdays as well as seasonally.
  4. Create a Space for Toys to be Displayed: Whether you have a toy room or a child’s bedroom, or in our case the toys live among our main living area, they all have a home within our home – a dedicated place to be returned to when the play is over where they can be organized and found with ease. Display toys that are important, meaningful, support learning through play. If there isn’t room, the toy goes.
  5. Toys In, Toys Out: Sharing with friends and family is encouraged (and much more budget friendly), birthdays are exciting and worthy of celebration, holidays provide rich memories but all of these things result in more “stuff”. When one new thing comes in the house, one old thing goes out the door.
  6. Encourage Learning Through Play: Make play valuable time that doesn’t always have to be with a toy – playing (safely) in the kitchen, outside, or with learning activities, and create a routine where tidying up is part of the activity.
  7. Avoid the Sparkle of New Stuff: Your child doesn’t need every toy on the market. It’s a big business for a reason and a company’s job to make us feel that we need and want the latest and greatest toys and versions of toys. I want the very best for my child and would love to give her the world, but I also want to teach her to use her mind and to place value where it is important. This one is really hard, especially when children get older and they feel their friends have more than or better than they do. That’s why it’s so important to set these standards early – that toys can be appreciated, replaced (when other toys move out and on), and less is more.
  8. Be the Example of Change for Your Child: If I am constantly surrounding myself with new things, filling closets with stuff I never use, and feeling overwhelmed by the clutter, these messages are clear to the little ones looking up to me. Before I can think about asking my child to sacrifice her belongings, I must be willing to do the same.
  9. Be There: Children really want your time and attention – find activities that involve them and allow them to contribute to the home, take time to focus on them completely, and play with them.
  10. Involve Your Children in Organization: Children are surprisingly open to this idea. Who would have thought a 2 year old would be as keen to give what I had assumed were her favorite toys, to a friend. Making decisions is hard and teaching them how to do this is a valuable lesson – for everyone… I’m still learning. Letting them know where the toys are going allows them to feel good about what they are doing.
  11. Play Everywhere: I take Little Bee to places where she will have access to other toys and appreciate them as something new and exciting such as the library, playgroup, friends house, outside, kitchen, and so on. This makes her toys that much more special when they are unique and makes each outing fun!

5 Steps to Decluttering Toys

 

  1. Start Small: Go through books and remove those that you and your children have moved beyond. Organize blocks or Barbies and look at each area individually. Once you have each small section done, you can stand back and look at the big picture and fine-tune what you have already decluttered. Organizing one area at a time helps me get an understanding of how much of it we had (usually way too much) and how much of it we needed if we even did at all. Also, it allowed me to see what I needed for storage for this item.
  2. Involve Your Children in the Process: There are so many lessons to be learned from this experience (read more below) and children are natural helpers and have good hearts. Once they understand what is going on, they will be surprisingly eager to help. If they are not quite there yet, spend some time talking to them about sharing and giving.
  3. Define the Space Where the Toys Belong: I found labelling the containers or color coding to be helpful when I had the daycare. The kids came to understand what was in each box and more importantly where things went when it was time to put it all away. Now, with less to deal with, Little Bee and I have a shelf for most of the larger toys and bins that smaller parts and toys can go into. This makes cleaning up and staying organized that much easier. If it doesn’t fit, or have a spot, it doesn’t stay.
  4. Once It Goes in the Garbage/Donation/Re-gifting Pile, It Doesn’t Come Back Into Play: This is a tricky one as formerly forgotten toys become instantly loved when they are found again. Get rid of it immediately or within a short frame of time, the longer you “store it for later” the more likely it will be forgotten, or taken back out and put into toy rotation.
  5. Take the Time to Appreciate and Hold Each Item Before Making a Decision: Each toy held a lot of memories for me and was a great conversation for my daughter and I. Do we love and play with this item? Do we have a place to put it where it can be appreciated? Remember the time…? Who do you think would love this item now that we are done with it?

*This comes as inspiration from The Life – Changing Magic of Tidying Up – A guide for organizing and simplifiying without overwhelm. Such a great book to help wrap your head around moving on from all your “stuff”. I really do recommend it – like most of my books, this one is covered in highlighter and pen marks from all the notes worth going back to.

 

What Do I Do with All The Toys We’ve Purged?

Now that you’ve gone through the process, what do you do with all this stuff? Where do you take it all? This is what we did.

  • Donate to local schools
  • Donate to charity boxes or drop zones
  • Pass on to loved ones – family or friends with children who could would welcome it. Welcoming it being the key so you don’t set them up with the same problem you are having 😉
  • Throw away those things that have had their time, are now broken or beyond repair
  • Sell items that you feel you could pass onto to someone but still have lots of value. There are lots of local consignment groups on Facebook or kijiji.com for example
  • Repurpose before throwing away. Some items we have found have made great craft projects, or have become part of our “beautiful things” box.

7 Additional Tips for Downsizing Toys

 

  1. Some communities have a toy library where you can borrow just as you would books, and then return them at a later date. This is a wonderful idea that we’ve never taken part in but might look into for the future.
  2. I used to do a toy rotation when I had the daycare – I don’t feel I need that many toys on hand for Little Bee as we play outside, and take part in community and then we can play at home for a set chunk of the day each day so I haven’t found the need to increase the number of toys at this point.
  3. Some people recommend setting a number of toys to help keep the clutter in check but for my house it depends on what Little Bee is interested in, what skills I’m supporting and knowing what toys can grow with her in a meaningful way. I think this is a great strategy for a lot of families but for us it has more to do with space and value. I’m willing to make space for a great learning toy or one that Little Bee really loves, but not so much for a McDonald’s toy. Depending on your space, having a set number of toys for each child might be a great idea!
  4. Some things can stay regardless of number. We have a bin of “beautiful things” that are part of our art supplies. Feathers, flowers, ribbon and sparkles that allow us to make something incredible when we sit down to create. I leave art supplies out all the time now on her little activity table, although this has resulted in having a child used as a canvas rather than paper… (I looked away for 2 minutes and these were not washable markers…) but it also encourages her to be creative when the moment strikes!
  5. Open-Ended Toys are incredible for creative, imaginative, and constructive play. Using blocks as loose parts allows them to be multi-purpose. That doesn’t mean I want to be stepping over toppled towers all day, so we’ve had to come up with a way to store and transport them.
  6. Artwork gets displayed in frames. I swap out creations by Little Bee (when time allows). What we don’t display, we put lovingly in a binder or mailed to loved ones as a fun activity and going back to that gifting and sharing idea!
  7. This is (unfortunately) not a one-time process. As seasons pass, toys get shared with friends and passed down to us, holidays happen, we will reassess and that’s totally fine, welcomed and appreciated. It’s a chance for us to look through and evaluate what we have and check to see if it resonates with us and contributes to our learning through play.
9 Benefits of Having Fewer Toys

 

Longer Attention Span and Concentration: When children are constantly being “entertained” they have a harder time with quiet moments and finding ways to creatively use their time.Focus on one activity and seeing it through rather than jumping from one activity to the next, one toy to the next without much thought.

 

Playing with Real Life and Using Imagination: Toys become all sorts of other things, through loose parts play and allow  a child to creatively create their play instead of working within the confines of the specifically designed toy.

 

Sharing: There is so much that comes from learning to share: the conversation, the social skills, the compromise, learning about time (he has it for 5 minutes then my turn), the joy in others, problem solving, dealing with conflict, working in groups, relationship building – amazing skills to be learned.

 

Responsibility for Ownership: Taking care of them to allow toys to last longer, not leaving them outside, understanding their value (monetary and meaning) , putting them away at the end of the day.

 

Patience: Having to wait for another activity (getting ready for the grocery store, or driving to playgroup) and not being distracted with toys to help time pass.

 

Playing Elsewhere: Playing outside, creating art, dancing and singing, helping around the house, reading, spending time with family, are all great ways to spend time in meaningful ways without the need of excess toys.

 

Play Exhaustion and Decision Fatigue: Children are often overwhelmed with too many choices and can sometimes feel that is too much in the room to focus on, thus moving from one thing to another, or not playing with anything at all. Having fewer things (as noted above) allows children to devote time and attention to the importance of learning through play.

 

Teaching Children the Value of Moments Rather Than “Stuff”: This one speaks for itself in that memories can be treasured instead of piles of toys.

 

Use the Toys They Have More Often: It’s now easier to access those toys they have as there are fewer to weed through.

Challenges in Decluttering Toys

We’ve had to mention to family that we love how much they love our daughter but that we hope they would show that with their time and attention rather than with gifts. This is hard because as someone who loves to give gifts, I understand the joy that comes from creating that look of wonder on someone’s face and I didn’t want to take that away from Little Bee’s grandparents in giving her something special if they wanted to do so. We put in place the rule that when something new comes in, something old goes out. It’s hard to avoid that value being placed on getting something “new” being better than something old, that more, more, more means “worthy” and that every achievement deserves a gift. Little ones deserve to be celebrated but that doesn’t require wrapping paper.

Stuffed animals are my weakness. I love them. Now and when I was a kid. I can’t seem to stop buying them for Little Bee, and never seem to want to get rid of them. But they take up so much room! So many of these were not even played with because they were at the bottom of a basket, or buried in a pile of other furry faces. Now we have fewer (although still too many) but we display them around the house so they can easily be found and enjoyed.

We don’t have a dedicated toy space. If we had a room to spare perhaps I would create a beautiful playroom but we just don’t have the space right now. And that’s okay. I want Little Bee to know that her books, and toys are valuable tools for learning and are an invitation to a creative world where her imagination can run wild. I love seeing her play, hearing her voice build stories and adventures. It’s amazing. But, I don’t love tripping over the mass of toys that this often encourages. We had to be able to blend the two worlds of home and play. I didn’t want to have to “hide” her toys to make it look like a home.

Books are another hard one for me because I really value books. We have WAYYYYY too many books. Something I thought I would never say because I didn’t think there was such a thing as too many books. I have too many, AND Little Bee has too many. We just recently went through books that we had an scaled down those that were duplicates (or very similar) and chose a favorite, those we have grown beyond, or those that were very damaged (unless they were also very loved). We’ve passed along those books to friends and family who have little ones, donated to our local school, and recycled those that were beyond repair.

Life Long Lessons in Decluttering

All of this becomes so much more clear in the wake of a flood that has hit my community – seeing neighbours and friends lose almost all of their belongings overnight. They can tell you first hand that at the end of the day what is important is having each other, being safe and healthy, and having that bond that helps you get through those moments together. It’s a reminder of what’s important – where our focus should be as I prepare bags of “stuff” to be donated.

Share with your children how proud you are that they were able to pass on something of their own to someone else – if it’s someone they know, or if donated to charity, it’s something worth celebrating. They are positivity impacting someone else’s life and that is incredible.

Next Steps for a Minimalist Mindset

The idea here is to keep things simple – in having fewer toys to play with, but also fewer to clean up. The toys become viewed as special and appreciated, valued and cared for, displayed as parts of the home. The hope is that fewer will lead to less stress for my daughter and myself when it comes time to clean it all up. Living with less will give us more time together rather than my repeating time and time again that we need to put this or that away before taking out the next piece and wasting time looking for the lost piece of the puzzle in a box of a million pieces.

Starting with the toys is only the beginning. I’ve recently created myself a little office – still a work in progress – and it feels so great to have a dedicated place to go to do my work where I don’t have to climb over or interrupt my daughter’s play to get there. There is, however, a dreaded closet in that room that is filled to the brim with “stuff” – leftover this and that which doesn’t seem to find a home anywhere else, and I really need to bring myself to dealing with it. Our garage needs a lot of attention as we had moved from a bigger home to our smaller home, which meant we had a lot of extra furniture that all landed in the garage. This past weekend I cleared out a third of it… it’s a start.

I grew up in a house that was not filled to the brim with toys. That didn’t mean my sister and I went without; we had more than enough to play with and keep us busy. We also had a devoted play space, which is more than what my daughter has now. What we learned was that if we didn’t take care of our toys we didn’t get to keep them. We donated toys that we no longer used and we passed items on to our younger cousins. I remember babysitting my adorable cousins Monica, Emily and Bridget (who have turned out to be incredible young women – I wish I could take some credit for how good they did turn out but it was 100% their parents and who they genuinely are) and seeing toys and books my sister and I once loved. Being young at the time, my first thought was shock. These were my beloved items! But upon looking back, it was a valuable lesson in sharing these things with family, in seeing them have a second life and getting to appreciate them again while playing with my cousins. Pretty neat. My mother was teaching me a lot in those moments. I hope to teach my daughter the same character creating lessons.

 

What other ideas do you have for reorganizing your space? Do you have strategies for staying on top of the toy clutter?

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